Print and tape to fridge: Mantras for bad ppd days

This post is dedicated to lovely and amazing Pamela Gold of Another brilliant #ppdchat mama going through rough time. I am holding you in the light.

When you cannot access your love for anybody, let alone yourself,
When every waking thought hurts and all your dreams are nightmares,
When no matter what you try you think you fail,

I hope you remember this.

It’s not you. Your brain has been hijacked by the PPDemons. The bastards.
They scream in your head. Their screams become your thoughts, but they are not truly yours. If you weren’t so vulnerable right now (and you have every right to be vulnerable these days) you would be able to tell the difference.

But until then, here are some secret weapons, (scratch that, too violent. Let’s start over) Here are some secret potions to keep handy. My favorite one came from a bumper sticker when I was coming out of a therapist’s office 6 years ago:

Don’t believe everything you think.

It became my mantra. Saved. My. Life!
It details what works, and online essay in order-essay-online.net what will work. @mamarobinj tweeted about it a few

weeks back, did you see it?
It made perfect sense to me, it was a light bulb moment, instantly; but if you find resistance showing up for you, let’s translate into this:

Your emotions are always valid.
The scary stories they tell you don’t have to be.

The scary stories are almost always PPDemons crap.
Take them with a grain of salt.

Here is my favorite salt shaker:

Just because/Doesn’t mean.

(You may be familiar with it already, I use it here quite often. Are you using it? Shake it baby!)

Just because you feel like a bad mother
doesn’t mean you are not a very good enough mother.
(The perfect mother doesn’t exist, the desire to be a good mother is what makes you into one, the rest is practice and love)

Just because you are angry at your toddler
doesn’t mean he doesn’t feel your love
(Anger is another form of caring, and there are very healthy ways of expressing it. More about that soon)

Just because you feel like shit
doesn’t mean you don’t have a heart of gold
(and a mind of diamond!)

Just because you try and fail
doesn’t mean you are not accomplishing things
(failing is no fun for the ego, but it gives you lots of opportunites to learn)

Just because you had a setback
doesn’t mean you are not making progress.
(actually setbacks are a sure sign of progress! and boy, I would much rather never have one ever again!)

Just because your husband is picking up some slack
doesn’t mean you should feel guilty
(it’s ok to feel the guilt, it’s a practically unavoidable knee jerk reaction, but the guilt doesn’t make it wrong)

Just because you are crying
doesn’t mean you are weak.
(Accessing your tears gives you power)

Just because you don’t have power over your PPD
doesn’t mean you don’t have power in it.
(practicing your power makes it grow, using these mantras is a good start)

Just because you hate yourself
doesn’t mean you are not loveable.
(Thank goodness, self loathing doesn’t block your amazing-ness from shining)

You have all of us #ppdchat mamas rooting for you. We adore you. Your blog is brilliant, and your writing is shining and true. True except for the parts that you put yourself down. We hear you, and we see beyond that.

I hope this helps.

Hugs across the miles,

Yael.

 

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Print and tape to fridge: Mantras for bad ppd days

This post is dedicated to lovely and amazing Pamela Gold of Another brilliant #ppdchat mama going through rough time. I am holding you in the light.

When you cannot access your love for anybody, let alone yourself,
When every waking thought hurts and all your dreams are nightmares,
When no matter what you try you think you fail,

I hope you remember this.

It’s not you. Your brain has been hijacked by the PPDemons. The bastards.
They scream in your head. Their screams become your thoughts, but they are not truly yours. If you weren’t so vulnerable right now (and you have every right to be vulnerable these days) you would be able to tell the difference.

But until then, here are some secret weapons, (scratch that, too violent. Let’s start over) Here are some secret potions to keep handy. My favorite one came from a bumper sticker when I was coming out of a therapist’s office 6 years ago:

Don’t believe everything you think.

It became my mantra. Saved. My. Life!
It details what works, and online essay in order-essay-online.net what will work. @mamarobinj tweeted about it a few

weeks back, did you see it?
It made perfect sense to me, it was a light bulb moment, instantly; but if you find resistance showing up for you, let’s translate into this:

Your emotions are always valid.
The scary stories they tell you don’t have to be.

The scary stories are almost always PPDemons crap.
Take them with a grain of salt.

Here is my favorite salt shaker:

Just because/Doesn’t mean.

(You may be familiar with it already, I use it here quite often. Are you using it? Shake it baby!)

Just because you feel like a bad mother
doesn’t mean you are not a very good enough mother.
(The perfect mother doesn’t exist, the desire to be a good mother is what makes you into one, the rest is practice and love)

Just because you are angry at your toddler
doesn’t mean he doesn’t feel your love
(Anger is another form of caring, and there are very healthy ways of expressing it. More about that soon)

Just because you feel like shit
doesn’t mean you don’t have a heart of gold
(and a mind of diamond!)

Just because you try and fail
doesn’t mean you are not accomplishing things
(failing is no fun for the ego, but it gives you lots of opportunites to learn)

Just because you had a setback
doesn’t mean you are not making progress.
(actually setbacks are a sure sign of progress! and boy, I would much rather never have one ever again!)

Just because your husband is picking up some slack
doesn’t mean you should feel guilty
(it’s ok to feel the guilt, it’s a practically unavoidable knee jerk reaction, but the guilt doesn’t make it wrong)

Just because you are crying
doesn’t mean you are weak.
(Accessing your tears gives you power)

Just because you don’t have power over your PPD
doesn’t mean you don’t have power in it.
(practicing your power makes it grow, using these mantras is a good start)

Just because you hate yourself
doesn’t mean you are not loveable.
(Thank goodness, self loathing doesn’t block your amazing-ness from shining)

You have all of us #ppdchat mamas rooting for you. We adore you. Your blog is brilliant, and your writing is shining and true. True except for the parts that you put yourself down. We hear you, and we see beyond that.

I hope this helps.

Hugs across the miles,

Yael.

 

Sorry, comments are closed for this post.