Ithaca Support Meetings

The Ithaca Mothers’ Support Group:
Not just for the PPD, all mothers struggling with any aspect of motherhood are welcome.

What: A bunch of moms (and some very cute babies) supporting each other.
Some have been diagnosed with PPD, others haven’t quite figured out what the heck is making their lives so hard. Some of us don’t have full fledged depression, but still struggle with guilt, feelings of inadequacy, sleep deprivation, and the big difference between expectations and reality in the mother-land. Drop in, ongoing, and absolutely free. Babys and toddlers welcome.

Why: Having the support system and the skills that we develop together is helpful for all women struggling with these issues, regardless of a diagnosis, or the age of their children. Did you know that left untreated, PPD can linger until your child is a toddler or even much older? Depression, or even just that voice in your head telling you that you are not a very good mother, all respond really well to the kind of emotional workout we do in our meetings. The beauty of this emotional workout is that it actually brings ease and openness to our emotional landscape, so it doesn’t feel so much like work, and it’s very playful.

When: we usually meet on the 1st Thursday of each month.
Click here for our Events Calendar
RSVP Pretty Please (RSVPPP! ;) this is important:
Planning on coming to the meeting? Good! I can’t wait to meet you. Now would you please let me know to expect you?
This helps me plan the group, and is also very useful in case of last minute cancelations: for snow days, sick days, and general shoot happens situations.
How this works: You can either leave a comment below or email  (ppdtojoy at gmail dot com) or tweet (@yaelsaar) to let me know.
RSVP amnesty: if you RSVP and then life gets in the way, just let me know you can’t come after all, and it’s all good.

Where:
 New Location: The Women’s Opportunity Center: 315 North Tioga Street, just a block away from the downtown parking garage by the Ithaca Commons
. Right around the corner from the Seneca Tioga Streets bus stop,easy, inexpensive parking at nearby municipal garages as seen on this map. The room is carpeted, and even has toys and kids’ books, score!
What’s it like?
When they come into our should-free zone, mothers begin to breathe easier. The meetings involve sharing, skill building (kinder self-talk for all!), tears, tissues, laughter, serious stuff and some goofiness too. We sometimes include movement, the gentle, respecting-your-limits-and-your-body kind. And you never have to do anything that doesn’t feel 100% right. And whatever you feel like doing or saying is welcome and you are never judged. Silent retreating welcome, you don’t have to say anything if you’d rather just listen and absorb. In short, you get permission to be exactly where you are, and learn how to continue doing this when you go back to your everyday life.
Do you live within driving distance of Ithaca NY?
I hope so. Cause I’d absolutely love to meet you.
 And if you are not ready for meetings, please don’t feel bad about it, you’ll know when you are ready.
Can’t make it? Don’t be discouraged. The SpeakEasy support phone meetings are awesome.

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Yael’s support group is great. She is understanding, compassionate and nonjudgmental. She’s been there, too. I love her attitude, her ability to point out what should be obvious (but we have too much going on to notice), and to infuse humor into topics that can be uncomfortable or painful. I appreciate Yael’s approach, especially the way she normalizes our motherhood struggles. It’s refreshing to be able to say to someone “I’m having a bad day” and for them to understand, to know when you’re just venting, and when you’re looking for suggestions. Yael’s PPD to Joy support group offers a caring community to women at times of need.
~ Tina  (6yo boy and 4yo girl), Ithaca, NY.



I wasn’t exactly depressed, so I wasn’t sure I should come to the Postpartum Depression support group. But I was so sad and feeling guilty about how little patience I had for my three-year old in the wake of having a second child. I’m so glad I came! Yael’s suggestions helped me untangle my feelings and refine my expectations in a tender and yet frank way. She went above and beyond to helping me realize the whole weight wasn’t on my shoulders and I felt like I truly was able to breathe for the first time in weeks. If you feel guilty or sad, please don’t be embarrassed to ask for help. Get support before it gets bad. Often, that’s when it does the most good.

Marissa,  (3yo boy and a newborn girl), Ithaca, New York



Yael, thank you for providing this opportunity for connecting with other mothers who are having a hard time, this is so important. I find that I can be more compassionate with the other women than I am with myself. But experiencing my compassion for others helps me give compassion to myself.  I was concerned about bringing my baby with me, sometimes she fusses and I was worried that it would disturb the group. You made both of us feel so at ease, it hasn’t been a problem. I wish I had access to such support after I had my first child. I am grateful to have it now.

Meg  (2 girls)Ithaca, New York




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  3. Naomi Lowry
    October 20, 2013 | 10:45 am

    Hello. My son was born May 28, 2013 and I was diagnosed with PPD within a month after he was born. I live in Syracuse but haven’t been able to find a support group in the area so I’m very much considering driving to Ithaca! I am planning on trying to get there the first Thursday on November, as long as the group is still getting together that day. Please let me know! Thank you for your time!! I appreciate it.

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  6. CJ
    August 7, 2011 | 9:20 pm

    Hi Yael,

    I am a grandma who is care-giver to my three year old grandson while
    his mom and dad are at their jobs. Recently the post-partum feelings
    and depression I had experienced many years ago when my daughter was
    born came rushing forward. I want you to know how amazing
    your PPD to Joy sharing in your letters and posts are. Much of what you
    are working to help new mom’s with was not available when I was a new
    mom. I want you to know how your mention of the guilt, fear of imper-
    fection in parenting and the depression issues resonated with me all
    these years post-partum. I am sure it is partly because I am in the
    “mom” role during the active parts of a 3 yr. old’s day and behaviors
    I experience with him have reawakened feelings that went undiagnosed
    and untreated all those years ago.

    Thank you for being there for so many people who now have someone and
    someplace to turn to when they are sure they are the only one feeling
    so awful at a time when every one expects them to be so happy. I am
    benefiting from your hard work with your own depression and can now work on
    on resolving my depression and guilt – finally! BTW I am 62 :-)

    • Yael
      August 8, 2011 | 10:20 pm

      Thank you so much for letting me know how you feel. I am honored that I am able to bring you comfort.
      Do come to the meetings. Bring your grandson, there are toys and a wooden slide in the meeting room.
      I hope to meet you soon.

  7. Lisa Silverman Hoffberg
    June 21, 2011 | 10:40 am

    Hi Yael,

    Just saying Hello! I am expecting my second daughter in three weeks.
    I had some very difficult times after my first daughter was born. She’ll
    be three at the end of August. I’ve been doing a lot of inner work, with
    outside support, but wanted to have your info readily available and all
    set up for this time around. I’ve seen your flyers and posters in lots
    of places! Thanks for doing this!

    Lisa

    • Yael
      June 23, 2011 | 7:57 pm

      Hey Lisa,
      Thank you for introducing yourself. I am so happy to hear my flyers are getting into the right hands.
      All the inner work you’ve done will come in handy when the second kid joins the family. I hope to see you and baby in the groups. you are welcome to bring your big girl with you as well. Much luck and love.

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