Nicole’s Rainy Day Letter (Hope in an Envelope 5)

Nicole is here! (on twitter she is @healingmutti) with her very own Rainy Day Letter.
I love that she really goes into details about what she likes about herself. Good stuff to have in writing for when you are under the attack of the PPDemons.

(Are you new here? The original post that started the Hope in an Envelope collection is here: The Opportunity in Setbacks and Rainy Days Letters. If this idea resonates with you and you would like to submit your own letter, email me at ppdtojoy dot com, or let me know on twitter, I’m @yaelsaar. You can use the twitter hashtag #rainydaysletters. I can’t wait to read what you come up with.)

Passing the mic to Nicole:

Dear Beautiful,

Hey you!  I heard you’ve been feeling better, and that is awesome!  You are such a bright, and cheerful person, I hated seeing you so down and out for so long.  You deserve happiness, did you know that?  You deserve good things that happen to you, or for you.  You are such a caring, compassionate, loving, selfless person.  Your heart is so big, it sometimes feels too heavy, I am sure, but do not let that discourage you.  Do not ever lose that heart, or forget it’s there.  That is who you are.

Those days that you feel confused as to how you’re supposed to be feeling, just remember this:  it’s normal to get upset, angry, or irritated.  You are a mommy, it’s completely natural to lose your cool.  Being able to cool down, and not let it control you, that is the difference between you NOW, and you THEN.  So, do not be afraid of those feelings.  They are healthy, and completely natural.  Just remember that being in control is most important.

Kiddo is an amazing kid.  She has so much heart, just like you.  You have done well with her, even if you can’t see it yet.  You have given her the most important thing a mommy could give her:  love.  She knows you love her, and she loves you just as much.  Those days that you cried and cried, and she wiped your tears, they only brought you closer.  She is not permanently damaged, no more than any other child.  Haha! :P   She will be fine, she will do her best and be great at whatever she does.  Do you know why?  Because she knows she has a mommy who loves and cares for her so much, that you will be there for her no matter what.

You are in school again?  That’s fantastic!  You have always been so smart, and open-minded.  I am positive you will be great in school, and even greater when you graduate.  It’s normal to feel frustrated at school work, but you are strong enough to push through it.  Stumbles happen, and you wont be perfect, but nobody ever is.  Just remember to take time out for yourself.

That husband of yours is pretty great.  He has supported you throughout the darkness, even when you didn’t think he was.  It’s hard to see everything when you’re wading through the darkness with a blindfold on.  Just remember this:  let him help!  You do not have to do everything yourself.  Give yourself a break!  He wants to help, and has shown that over and over, so let him.  Not only will it give you a break, but it will give him a chance to do something for you.  Take it.  Embrace it.  Love it.

Your confidence isn’t as good as it used to be, and that’s a shame, but you can get it back.  You are smart, beautiful, and an amazing human being.  Those stretch marks, and extra pounds you have?  Tons of other mothers have them too!  Those days when you wish bedtime would hurry up and get here?  Tons of other mothers have them too!  I saw the glimmer in your eye the other day when you looked in the mirror, and looked at your flaws.  I saw that you were starting to recognize that they may be flaws, but they also make you who you are, and there are a lot of people who love you just like that.  You should too.

Whatever guilt you may have, let it go.  Just let it go.  You cannot change the past, so why hold on to feelings from the past?  This is the time for healing, and for growing.  You suffered, and sometimes you still do, but you are strong enough to move on.  Do not ever forget the past, but do not let it control you either.  That person that you were during your PPD, that was not you.  You are not that angry, mean, sad person.  Those thoughts you had, they were just that, thoughts.  They were not even your real thoughts, so do not feel guilty or ashamed for them.  It happened, it’s now time to let it go.

You are amazing.  You are beautiful.  You are a wonderful mommy, and a wonderful human being.  PLEASE do not ever forget who you are.

With Love,

Nicole

 

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Don’t you just love it?

“PLEASE do not ever forget who you are.” Yes! Exactly. Having this letter to look back to when the going gets tough will help.  

Nicole bloggs at http://healingmutti.com/
Go Say hello. 

Comment magic:
Talk to Nicole, talk to me, talk to you.
Tell her: what parts of her letter touched you?
Tell me: what do you need to hear when you are down? 

Tell you: what do you love about you most? How can that help you feel better when you are in a slump?

You are welcome to share your Rainy Day Letter with me. And, if you wish, I would be honored to share it here on the blog.
Inspired? Want more? Links for the rest of this collection can be fond on this post. 

As always, all the love in the world to all who read.
Whether you comment or not, may the joy be with you.

10 Responses to Nicole’s Rainy Day Letter (Hope in an Envelope 5)
  1. Lyla
    July 11, 2012 | 10:43 am

    Hi Nicole. Thank you so much for sharing this letter so many months ago. I am reading it today and your words are inspiring me. xoxo.

  2. Nicole
    September 22, 2011 | 10:33 pm

    You really should! It felt good to write it.
    Nicole recently posted..Please Be Patient

  3. Nicole
    September 22, 2011 | 10:32 pm

    Thank you! You are so right, too, unfortunately.
    Nicole recently posted..Please Be Patient

  4. Yael
    September 22, 2011 | 8:40 pm

    Sweetie, please write yourself and us a letter, It would be so fitting, as you were the person the original rainy days letters post was dedicated to. Please email it to me so I can share it here, it would be an honor. much love.

  5. Erica
    September 22, 2011 | 6:48 pm

    Thank you for sharing…I need to do this, I really really do.
    Erica recently posted..I Couldn’t Hug Him And I Wish I Had

  6. Yael
    September 18, 2011 | 1:44 pm

    I’m so glad this is useful on a regular basis. It’s amazing how well these letters to ourselves serve us, isn’t it? hugs.

  7. Yael
    September 18, 2011 | 1:42 pm

    Jenny so good to see you here again. And yes. exactly.

  8. Jenny
    September 15, 2011 | 11:16 pm

    Love this so much! This really touched me “Your confidence isn’t as good as it used to be, and that’s a shame, but you can get it back.” PPD can shake you to your core and make you not recognize yourself.

  9. My Letter on PPD to Joy! «
    September 15, 2011 | 4:58 pm

    […] My rainy day letter has been added to the other lovely letters written by other PPD sufferers/survivors!  Please, go read it here: http://www.ppdtojoy.com/blog/nicoles-letter/ […]

  10. Nicole
    September 15, 2011 | 4:47 pm

    Thank you so much! I read it even when I am not down, just when I need a little extra push. I hope everyone enjoys it. <3
    Nicole recently posted..I Survived PPD, But…

Nicole’s Rainy Day Letter (Hope in an Envelope 5)

Nicole is here! (on twitter she is @healingmutti) with her very own Rainy Day Letter.
I love that she really goes into details about what she likes about herself. Good stuff to have in writing for when you are under the attack of the PPDemons.

(Are you new here? The original post that started the Hope in an Envelope collection is here: The Opportunity in Setbacks and Rainy Days Letters. If this idea resonates with you and you would like to submit your own letter, email me at ppdtojoy dot com, or let me know on twitter, I’m @yaelsaar. You can use the twitter hashtag #rainydaysletters. I can’t wait to read what you come up with.)

Passing the mic to Nicole:

Dear Beautiful,

Hey you!  I heard you’ve been feeling better, and that is awesome!  You are such a bright, and cheerful person, I hated seeing you so down and out for so long.  You deserve happiness, did you know that?  You deserve good things that happen to you, or for you.  You are such a caring, compassionate, loving, selfless person.  Your heart is so big, it sometimes feels too heavy, I am sure, but do not let that discourage you.  Do not ever lose that heart, or forget it’s there.  That is who you are.

Those days that you feel confused as to how you’re supposed to be feeling, just remember this:  it’s normal to get upset, angry, or irritated.  You are a mommy, it’s completely natural to lose your cool.  Being able to cool down, and not let it control you, that is the difference between you NOW, and you THEN.  So, do not be afraid of those feelings.  They are healthy, and completely natural.  Just remember that being in control is most important.

Kiddo is an amazing kid.  She has so much heart, just like you.  You have done well with her, even if you can’t see it yet.  You have given her the most important thing a mommy could give her:  love.  She knows you love her, and she loves you just as much.  Those days that you cried and cried, and she wiped your tears, they only brought you closer.  She is not permanently damaged, no more than any other child.  Haha! :P   She will be fine, she will do her best and be great at whatever she does.  Do you know why?  Because she knows she has a mommy who loves and cares for her so much, that you will be there for her no matter what.

You are in school again?  That’s fantastic!  You have always been so smart, and open-minded.  I am positive you will be great in school, and even greater when you graduate.  It’s normal to feel frustrated at school work, but you are strong enough to push through it.  Stumbles happen, and you wont be perfect, but nobody ever is.  Just remember to take time out for yourself.

That husband of yours is pretty great.  He has supported you throughout the darkness, even when you didn’t think he was.  It’s hard to see everything when you’re wading through the darkness with a blindfold on.  Just remember this:  let him help!  You do not have to do everything yourself.  Give yourself a break!  He wants to help, and has shown that over and over, so let him.  Not only will it give you a break, but it will give him a chance to do something for you.  Take it.  Embrace it.  Love it.

Your confidence isn’t as good as it used to be, and that’s a shame, but you can get it back.  You are smart, beautiful, and an amazing human being.  Those stretch marks, and extra pounds you have?  Tons of other mothers have them too!  Those days when you wish bedtime would hurry up and get here?  Tons of other mothers have them too!  I saw the glimmer in your eye the other day when you looked in the mirror, and looked at your flaws.  I saw that you were starting to recognize that they may be flaws, but they also make you who you are, and there are a lot of people who love you just like that.  You should too.

Whatever guilt you may have, let it go.  Just let it go.  You cannot change the past, so why hold on to feelings from the past?  This is the time for healing, and for growing.  You suffered, and sometimes you still do, but you are strong enough to move on.  Do not ever forget the past, but do not let it control you either.  That person that you were during your PPD, that was not you.  You are not that angry, mean, sad person.  Those thoughts you had, they were just that, thoughts.  They were not even your real thoughts, so do not feel guilty or ashamed for them.  It happened, it’s now time to let it go.

You are amazing.  You are beautiful.  You are a wonderful mommy, and a wonderful human being.  PLEASE do not ever forget who you are.

With Love,

Nicole

 

– – –
Don’t you just love it?

“PLEASE do not ever forget who you are.” Yes! Exactly. Having this letter to look back to when the going gets tough will help.  

Nicole bloggs at http://healingmutti.com/
Go Say hello. 

Comment magic:
Talk to Nicole, talk to me, talk to you.
Tell her: what parts of her letter touched you?
Tell me: what do you need to hear when you are down? 

Tell you: what do you love about you most? How can that help you feel better when you are in a slump?

You are welcome to share your Rainy Day Letter with me. And, if you wish, I would be honored to share it here on the blog.
Inspired? Want more? Links for the rest of this collection can be fond on this post. 

As always, all the love in the world to all who read.
Whether you comment or not, may the joy be with you.

10 Responses to Nicole’s Rainy Day Letter (Hope in an Envelope 5)
  1. Lyla
    July 11, 2012 | 10:43 am

    Hi Nicole. Thank you so much for sharing this letter so many months ago. I am reading it today and your words are inspiring me. xoxo.

  2. Nicole
    September 22, 2011 | 10:33 pm

    You really should! It felt good to write it.
    Nicole recently posted..Please Be Patient

  3. Nicole
    September 22, 2011 | 10:32 pm

    Thank you! You are so right, too, unfortunately.
    Nicole recently posted..Please Be Patient

  4. Yael
    September 22, 2011 | 8:40 pm

    Sweetie, please write yourself and us a letter, It would be so fitting, as you were the person the original rainy days letters post was dedicated to. Please email it to me so I can share it here, it would be an honor. much love.

  5. Erica
    September 22, 2011 | 6:48 pm

    Thank you for sharing…I need to do this, I really really do.
    Erica recently posted..I Couldn’t Hug Him And I Wish I Had

  6. Yael
    September 18, 2011 | 1:44 pm

    I’m so glad this is useful on a regular basis. It’s amazing how well these letters to ourselves serve us, isn’t it? hugs.

  7. Yael
    September 18, 2011 | 1:42 pm

    Jenny so good to see you here again. And yes. exactly.

  8. Jenny
    September 15, 2011 | 11:16 pm

    Love this so much! This really touched me “Your confidence isn’t as good as it used to be, and that’s a shame, but you can get it back.” PPD can shake you to your core and make you not recognize yourself.

  9. My Letter on PPD to Joy! «
    September 15, 2011 | 4:58 pm

    […] My rainy day letter has been added to the other lovely letters written by other PPD sufferers/survivors!  Please, go read it here: http://www.ppdtojoy.com/blog/nicoles-letter/ […]

  10. Nicole
    September 15, 2011 | 4:47 pm

    Thank you so much! I read it even when I am not down, just when I need a little extra push. I hope everyone enjoys it. <3
    Nicole recently posted..I Survived PPD, But…