A letter from an Imperfect Momma (Hope in an Envelope 3)

Today we are fortunate to have Jessica (@imperfectmomma on Twitter) visiting us with her response to this: The Opportunity in Setbacks and Rainy Days Letters.

I adore the spunk in her letter. And the wisdom.

If you too are in recovery from PPD, next time you are feeling “totally yourself”, save some for a rainy day: put some of that hope in an envelope, to read as needed. If you send it to me, I will be happy to publish your letter here.

Passing the mic to Jessica:

Dear Me:

You are unbelievably awesome. Don’t you forget that. Now, I know you are going through a bad day right now – remember setbacks are normal! You are not a failure because you can’t handle Thing 1 & 2′s screams.

You are human. These bad days are gonna come, but remember there will be good days.

And those good days? They will become more and more. They will be the regular. You will be writing again. You will be smiling, just cause, again. You will be you. I swear.

Just remember these three things:
One – These pills you are taking? While they are very helpful – ain’t the cure-all. Know what that means? You are gonna cry. Yup. Sorry. I know how you hate crying – but crying is a good thing. It means you are letting go. It also means – there will still be times where you hate your life. Where you think the things you are doing mean nothing. Lemme tell you something chica – Your life? means a lot. To thing 1 & thing 2. You are making a difference in the world – through those two little people. Believe me – it’s true cause I am saying it, girlie.

Two – Ask for help. Girl, you are not supermom! You ain’t perfect! It’s okay to say: I can’t do this! Don’t look at the other moms and wonder how they do it. Look to yourself. And believe you me, my friend, they aren’t perfect either.

If you can’t handle the two during the day – call your mom for some time off. If you can’t handle Thing 2′s cries at 1am – pass her off to Mr. Man. It’s okay.

It does not mean you are a bad mom! It means you’re tired, stressed and tired. Yes, I know I said it twice – but come on now… You know that’s how tired you are.

Three – No man is an island. Reach out to the Lord, talk to your friends. Don’t shut people out. I mean – ya, there are people you need to ignore because of their stupidity, but there are tons more who are there to help. Those negative people? No matter the fact that they are family, you need to not tell them everything! They are just gonna bring you down with their judgmental attitudes. Sad to say but true.

Postpartum depression is not a death sentence. It’s a temporary sentence…it just means you need a little bit of help…for a period of time.

By God’s grace you will get through this – you will see brighter days ahead.

I love you – ya crazy chica

Jessica

– – –

Don’t you just love it?
“Ask for help. Girl, you are not supermom!.”
We all wish we were supermom, and not a s single on of us is, so yes. That.
Jessica, I thank you so much for sharing  your heart and hopes with us.

Jessica bloggs at Living With PPD.
G
o say hello.

Comment magic:
Talk to Jessica, talk to me, talk to you.
Tell her: what parts of her letter touched you?
Tell me: what do you need to hear when you are down? 

Tell you: what do you love about you most? How can that help you feel better when you are in a slump?

You are welcome to share your rainy day letter with me and, if you wish, I would be honored to share it here on the blog.
Inspired? Want more? Take a look at Rach’s Letter and Story’s Letter.

As always, love, love, love to all who read.
Whether you comment or not, may the joy be with you.

One Response to A letter from an Imperfect Momma (Hope in an Envelope 3)
  1. Jenny
    August 30, 2011 | 3:12 pm

    Jessica,

    I loved the exact same quote that Yael did. “Ask for help. Girl, you are not supermom!” I really need to hear this every single day. We put such high expectations on ourselves to do it all, be it all, when we just need to be ourselves, warts and all. Thank you so much for this rainy day letter.

A letter from an Imperfect Momma (Hope in an Envelope 3)

Today we are fortunate to have Jessica (@imperfectmomma on Twitter) visiting us with her response to this: The Opportunity in Setbacks and Rainy Days Letters.

I adore the spunk in her letter. And the wisdom.

If you too are in recovery from PPD, next time you are feeling “totally yourself”, save some for a rainy day: put some of that hope in an envelope, to read as needed. If you send it to me, I will be happy to publish your letter here.

Passing the mic to Jessica:

Dear Me:

You are unbelievably awesome. Don’t you forget that. Now, I know you are going through a bad day right now – remember setbacks are normal! You are not a failure because you can’t handle Thing 1 & 2′s screams.

You are human. These bad days are gonna come, but remember there will be good days.

And those good days? They will become more and more. They will be the regular. You will be writing again. You will be smiling, just cause, again. You will be you. I swear.

Just remember these three things:
One – These pills you are taking? While they are very helpful – ain’t the cure-all. Know what that means? You are gonna cry. Yup. Sorry. I know how you hate crying – but crying is a good thing. It means you are letting go. It also means – there will still be times where you hate your life. Where you think the things you are doing mean nothing. Lemme tell you something chica – Your life? means a lot. To thing 1 & thing 2. You are making a difference in the world – through those two little people. Believe me – it’s true cause I am saying it, girlie.

Two – Ask for help. Girl, you are not supermom! You ain’t perfect! It’s okay to say: I can’t do this! Don’t look at the other moms and wonder how they do it. Look to yourself. And believe you me, my friend, they aren’t perfect either.

If you can’t handle the two during the day – call your mom for some time off. If you can’t handle Thing 2′s cries at 1am – pass her off to Mr. Man. It’s okay.

It does not mean you are a bad mom! It means you’re tired, stressed and tired. Yes, I know I said it twice – but come on now… You know that’s how tired you are.

Three – No man is an island. Reach out to the Lord, talk to your friends. Don’t shut people out. I mean – ya, there are people you need to ignore because of their stupidity, but there are tons more who are there to help. Those negative people? No matter the fact that they are family, you need to not tell them everything! They are just gonna bring you down with their judgmental attitudes. Sad to say but true.

Postpartum depression is not a death sentence. It’s a temporary sentence…it just means you need a little bit of help…for a period of time.

By God’s grace you will get through this – you will see brighter days ahead.

I love you – ya crazy chica

Jessica

– – –

Don’t you just love it?
“Ask for help. Girl, you are not supermom!.”
We all wish we were supermom, and not a s single on of us is, so yes. That.
Jessica, I thank you so much for sharing  your heart and hopes with us.

Jessica bloggs at Living With PPD.
G
o say hello.

Comment magic:
Talk to Jessica, talk to me, talk to you.
Tell her: what parts of her letter touched you?
Tell me: what do you need to hear when you are down? 

Tell you: what do you love about you most? How can that help you feel better when you are in a slump?

You are welcome to share your rainy day letter with me and, if you wish, I would be honored to share it here on the blog.
Inspired? Want more? Take a look at Rach’s Letter and Story’s Letter.

As always, love, love, love to all who read.
Whether you comment or not, may the joy be with you.

One Response to A letter from an Imperfect Momma (Hope in an Envelope 3)
  1. Jenny
    August 30, 2011 | 3:12 pm

    Jessica,

    I loved the exact same quote that Yael did. “Ask for help. Girl, you are not supermom!” I really need to hear this every single day. We put such high expectations on ourselves to do it all, be it all, when we just need to be ourselves, warts and all. Thank you so much for this rainy day letter.