This is why

This blog went live at midnight on September 23/24 2010, the eve of my 39th birthday. This is how this journey began. For more general info about me click here

In a few minutes I will be 10 years older than my mother was when she lost her fight with Postpartum Depression.

It is 8 minutes before my 39th birthday. One kid has a rash, the other has a runny nose. DH is asleep. I should be in bed too, the toddler will probably wake me up in less than 5 hours. I’m tired, but not sleepy. I am on fire.

When the clock strikes midnight, I will publish this website.
Here goes:

For my mother Mina,
my mother Mati,
my grandma Esther,
and for all mothers everywhere:
I am dedicating my work to healing the pain caused by postpartum depression.
I’ve been there too.
Three times.

The first time was with my birth mother, Mina.
The second time was when I had my first child.
The third was 5 years later, after my second son was born.

My mother Mina was very beautiful.
And very sad.
She cried.
A lot.
Her pain was all-consuming.
It affected all of us.
She killed herself when I was six.
(No, she didn’t kill herself on my birthday, that would have been terribly cruel. My mother wasn’t cruel, and she loved me.)

But this is no sob story. My dad remarried a year later to the best stepmother ever (I asked Mati to marry him before he did!). And I grew up in a loving, healthy family environment. Seriously, if all stepmothers were like Mati, kids would be telling their moms to leave them alone so they could get a stepmother already. She is just that good. Still, you can imagine that the scars from losing my birth mother are forever with me.

My second encounter with PPD was six years ago. When my first son was about 7 months old. The combination of sleep deprivation, difficulty breastfeeding (I spent about 5 hours a day pumping. Looking back it seems insane, at the time it  felt like the only way to prove to myself I was a “good mother”). Add a hefty dose of genetic predisposition, and it’s no surprise what happened next.

Well, you know how sometimes you need to hit rock bottom to give it a good kick that will propel you all the way back up? My rock bottom (*see the confession below) was a long hard night with my green suede belt wrapped around my neck, crying and praying for the strength to pull it tighter.
More than anything, I longed to free my loved ones from the burden of having such a broken person as their wife and mother.
In my tortured mind, I was obsessed with going up to heaven to do what I believe my mother had done  33 years ago: search from above for the best stepmother out there, and rush her to my family.  I “knew”  that since I’m so messed up that I can’t take good care of them, it is my “duty” to get out of the way and find someone else who can do the job so much better than me. Would you believe it? Finally, I understood my birth mother.

Something deep inside me recoiled at these thoughts, and ignited a spark. I found strength I didn’t know I had, and started seeking help. I spoke up: to my husband, my parents, my friends. I got a lot of support. I got professional help. I got better.
By the way, I am wearing that green belt as I type. I wear it often. I talk to it sometimes.

Besides sharing this pain with the people who loved me, what helped most was learning every mental-fitness method I could find. I read books, went to depression support groups (I couldn’t find one dedicated to PPD so went to “general” depression meetings). I worked with therapists, took courses, you name it, if it could help, I tried it.
I found many different modalities, with some overlap and varying degrees of accessibility during crisis.
Some of them were totally useless for me: “Breathe deeply, meditate, relax…”. Yeah, right.
Some methods are pretty darn good when applied consistently: Cognitive Therapy, The Work of Byron Katie, and the teachings of Abraham Low.
But none of those methods had everything I needed. And much was explained in technical terms that are far from user friendly.

It took about a year to get “myself” back. But it was a better self, far more equipped to handle emotional challenges than ever before, and much more present to joy.  I am now able to mother happily: it is never easy, but it is soul-satisfying.

The third time I lived through postpartum depression was 2 years ago. My first son was almost 4 years old by the time my husband and I mustered the courage to have another child. This time around, when the fatigue and hormones took their toll, I recognized the early symptoms and worked with my family and my doctor to minimize the depth and the duration of the pain. And just as important: this time I knew enough to recognize it wasn’t my fault. I had only to deal with the actual hardship, without compounding it with the extra suffering brought on by guilt and shame. That made all the difference in the world.

I have made it my life’s calling to find a way to replicate my success in overcoming postpartum depression. I am at the very early stages of creating classes that combine the best aspects of the many methods I have studied, and presents the information in a digestible, compassionate, guilt-dissolving way.

My goal is to create programs that are emotionally accessible even to women in the depth of the abyss. I envision customizable treasure maps and paths, to be followed in baby steps and a leap of faith (faith in you, not necessarily in god). I am planning units directed at partners, parents and in-laws (enough with the  “you just need to relax”  the “snap out of it” the “pull yourself together”), as well as tools for addressing self-talk, body image, relationship issues, self-expression, and compassionate self-care. Yep, that’s a tall order, and it’s all in the works.
(An update: It’s now May 2011, and the first of the classes I’m working on, called the  UnGuilt Trip is taking it’s first run here in Ithaca, NY. I am hard at work to turn it into an online course I plan to offer in the fall of 2011.)

For the past few years I volunteered as a counselor at a suicide prevention center. There, I found that my ideas and the tools I was using and especially the language in which they were presented, successfully cut through the thick cloud of pain to show callers a glimmer of hope. When the judgment is removed, callers (of all genders and ages) could see a reason to go on living. And seek help.
(This sort of work is heart-wrenching, but oh, so worth the effort.)

Last week, my toddler started going to nursery school.
After years of being “just” a stay-at-home mom, I can now begin doing my life’s work.

I am currently leading recovery groups in my community of Ithaca, New York, and offer a free a monthly support phone chat: The PPD SpeakEasy, accessible from anywhere. I’m an ambitious gal: I feel compelled to get this life-saving information into the hands of mothers everywhere.
My mission: to remove guilt and shame from the parenting experience. I want to show struggling mothers that what seems like a dead-end cave is actually a tunnel, one that can be crossed safely with the support of a loving community throughout the journey.

So if you need this sort of help, please keep in touch. If you know a mother in pain, please spread the word. Let’s help the suffering mothers of the world step out of the dark clouds of shame and guilt, and begin to shine.

Much love,
Yael

 

*Purple Star

Confession time. This page was created in September 2010. It is now April 2011. I’ve been pouring my soul on this website, but all this time I’ve been holding something back:

The night with the belt around my neck, was how I bottomed after the birth of my second son. With the first one, rock-bottom was an overdose of sleep/anxiety medication.
Yes. Like my mother before me, I attempted to end my life. I choose to believe she had something to do with the fact I survived.

Until about a couple of weeks ago, I kinda thought the night with the belt around my neck was bad enough; I couldn’t bring myself to share my suicide attempt here. Too much, too exposed. I was working up my courage to write about this, and in the last few weeks I had gotten the courage I needed from someone I adore despite never having met her in person: Kimberly from http://www.makemommygosomethingsomething.com/

She is so brave and honest in her journey, that she inspired me to “fess up”. I still need to write a lot more about this. It’s in the works, but it’s taking me forever, writing through my tears.

The first blog post I mentioned this in is this one: http://www.ppdtojoy.com/blog/absence-of-love/

32 Responses to This is why
  1. Mignon Compean
    July 10, 2013 | 11:38 pm

    Many thanks for any helpful website. The spot more could I get that type of real information designed in this great approach? I own a goal that i’m right now working with, so i are on the glance out and about for similarly info.

  2. kim tini
    November 7, 2012 | 7:52 pm

    I come back and read this page often. Especially when i feel like i will never get well. It gives me hope to know of someone else who has honestly felt like i have/do. And come out the other side so strong.

  3. Courtney
    June 6, 2012 | 12:03 am

    The pumping for 5 hours a day brought back memories. I did power pumping where I pumped for an hour taking a 5 min break every 5 min. It didn’t work. I felt horrible about breast feeding for a year at least. It’s brave of you to share your story. I didn’t try to kill myself per say but I did other things that were damaging and crazy. Maybe someday I will be able to talk about them.

  4. Jenny
    August 23, 2011 | 4:07 am

    You are a great momma! So glad to write your article.
    Jenny recently posted..Silver Jewelry

  5. Kim
    May 25, 2011 | 4:28 pm

    Striking. Thank you from the bottom of my soul. For over a year I have been scouring the web searching for somebody else who will tell their story with full honesty. Not a sanitzed version that sounds like a PR release. This is what I need. This is what will help me. And so many countless others. As odd as it might sound, this is a gift, you sharing this. Again, thank you.
    Kim recently posted..As A Formerly Depressed Person

    • Yael
      May 26, 2011 | 8:07 pm

      Oh, Sweetie, I’m so glad this is comforting and useful. I’m rooting for you. Hugs.

  6. Tal
    May 19, 2011 | 10:51 am

    Yael,

    I just now had the strength to read through everything you wrote. I know you so differently from what you share here, and it’s not easy to read of the depth of pain you felt.

    I think that what you are doing is amazing. you actually dedicate your life (a part of it anyway) to helping people that really need the help. Not many people can say that. From knowing you for 5 years now, it is clear that you have grown and become a happy and ambitious woman with a mission. I know you will succeed.

    It is an honor to know you and I will always be here for you in anyway I can.

    Your friend
    Tal

    • Yael
      May 20, 2011 | 3:01 pm

      Thank you so much for telling me how you feel. It’ is kind of strange to know someone on the everyday level and discover their painful dark past…
      while it hurt a lot, I am actually grateful for all of it, because it allowed me to become my best self. I love having you as my friend. so glad you are here in Ithaca with me.

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  8. Pamela Gold
    May 2, 2011 | 10:31 am

    Reading about what has happened to you breaks me in two. It makes me feel selfish for even entertaining the idea. Not like it would be a party…you know what I mean. I wish you continued strength.
    Pamela Gold recently posted..Anonymous Submissions – – One Final Release

    • Yael
      May 3, 2011 | 9:32 pm

      Oh, Pamela, I heart you so much.

      There is nothing selfish in being in so much pain you contemplate jumping ship.

      It is sadly common, which is why I am choosing to step outside of my comfort zone to talk about this stuff.

      I know it hurts to read this, I’m sorry for that pain, but it is so important that I talk about having gone through this, so people who get to that scary dark place no longer feel like freaks.

      You rock my world and give me strength by being in it.

  9. Kimberly
    May 2, 2011 | 9:34 am

    Oh honey. Thank you for having the courage to tell your story. You don’t even know how many women will feel your words in their souls…and give them hope.
    Thank you friend. Xoxo
    Kimberly recently posted..It’s Never Too Late

    • Yael
      May 6, 2011 | 9:35 pm

      Sweet Kimberly, it is your courage that inspired me to tap my own to finally share this here. Thank you for all that you do in the online ppd support community, and for me.

  10. charity
    May 1, 2011 | 5:28 pm

    Awesome. I cannot wait to share ur website with my midwife!!

    • Yael
      May 2, 2011 | 9:33 pm

      Charity,
      Thank you so much for sharing my work with your awesome midwife. The world needs more people like her. (and like you!)

  11. Jim
    February 10, 2011 | 6:03 pm

    Great statement in you video…”No one can feel miserable when their feet are being rubbed” !!

    As a Licensed Massage Therapist …..I see this on a daily basis – and know that the benefit has a true biological basis that is truly amazing !!

    Thanks for your site !

  12. orna
    September 27, 2010 | 6:20 pm

    you expressed yourself so candidly and so deeply.
    no one is better equipped than you to help others in this situation.
    may you reach all those who are in need.
    best of luck. love

    • Yael
      August 16, 2011 | 10:04 pm

      Oh, Orna, this is so sweet coming from you. You are the best mother in law ever. We all miss you so much.

  13. רחלי
    September 27, 2010 | 4:25 am

    מרגש!!
    המון הצלחה
    רחלי

  14. Jacki
    September 27, 2010 | 12:14 am

    Yael,
    It is clear that behind your effervescent personality is a lot of substance. I commend you for your calling and will let my colleagues know about your PPD class. If you have a flier, I’ll post it as well.
    Jacki

    • Yael
      September 29, 2010 | 10:01 pm

      Hey Jacki, thank you for the willingness to help. And yep, effervescence and substance, I aim to please… ;-)

  15. Dahlia
    September 26, 2010 | 4:45 pm

    מזל טוב יקירה
    איזה שילוב מרגש של טוב הלב ויכולת ההבעה האינסופיים שלך.
    בהצלחה

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      April 25, 2016 | 10:59 am

      Nonhitg I could say would give you undue credit for this story.

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    September 26, 2010 | 10:30 am

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    • Yael
      September 26, 2010 | 9:58 pm

      Naomi, Thank you. I would love to collaborate somehow. Yes, let’s.

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  19. MG
    September 24, 2010 | 1:48 pm

    Wow, Yael. Wow. I’m so glad you are doing this. What a fantastic community resource and space (for both the virtual and tangible communities in which we find ourselves). I feel so blessed to be part of this community. Thank you for sharing, and for your dedication.

    • Yael
      September 27, 2010 | 9:57 pm

      My friend, thank you so much. I love having you in my community. Lucky we.

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This is why

This blog went live at midnight on September 23/24 2010, the eve of my 39th birthday. This is how this journey began. For more general info about me click here

In a few minutes I will be 10 years older than my mother was when she lost her fight with Postpartum Depression.

It is 8 minutes before my 39th birthday. One kid has a rash, the other has a runny nose. DH is asleep. I should be in bed too, the toddler will probably wake me up in less than 5 hours. I’m tired, but not sleepy. I am on fire.

When the clock strikes midnight, I will publish this website.
Here goes:

For my mother Mina,
my mother Mati,
my grandma Esther,
and for all mothers everywhere:
I am dedicating my work to healing the pain caused by postpartum depression.
I’ve been there too.
Three times.

The first time was with my birth mother, Mina.
The second time was when I had my first child.
The third was 5 years later, after my second son was born.

My mother Mina was very beautiful.
And very sad.
She cried.
A lot.
Her pain was all-consuming.
It affected all of us.
She killed herself when I was six.
(No, she didn’t kill herself on my birthday, that would have been terribly cruel. My mother wasn’t cruel, and she loved me.)

But this is no sob story. My dad remarried a year later to the best stepmother ever (I asked Mati to marry him before he did!). And I grew up in a loving, healthy family environment. Seriously, if all stepmothers were like Mati, kids would be telling their moms to leave them alone so they could get a stepmother already. She is just that good. Still, you can imagine that the scars from losing my birth mother are forever with me.

My second encounter with PPD was six years ago. When my first son was about 7 months old. The combination of sleep deprivation, difficulty breastfeeding (I spent about 5 hours a day pumping. Looking back it seems insane, at the time it  felt like the only way to prove to myself I was a “good mother”). Add a hefty dose of genetic predisposition, and it’s no surprise what happened next.

Well, you know how sometimes you need to hit rock bottom to give it a good kick that will propel you all the way back up? My rock bottom (*see the confession below) was a long hard night with my green suede belt wrapped around my neck, crying and praying for the strength to pull it tighter.
More than anything, I longed to free my loved ones from the burden of having such a broken person as their wife and mother.
In my tortured mind, I was obsessed with going up to heaven to do what I believe my mother had done  33 years ago: search from above for the best stepmother out there, and rush her to my family.  I “knew”  that since I’m so messed up that I can’t take good care of them, it is my “duty” to get out of the way and find someone else who can do the job so much better than me. Would you believe it? Finally, I understood my birth mother.

Something deep inside me recoiled at these thoughts, and ignited a spark. I found strength I didn’t know I had, and started seeking help. I spoke up: to my husband, my parents, my friends. I got a lot of support. I got professional help. I got better.
By the way, I am wearing that green belt as I type. I wear it often. I talk to it sometimes.

Besides sharing this pain with the people who loved me, what helped most was learning every mental-fitness method I could find. I read books, went to depression support groups (I couldn’t find one dedicated to PPD so went to “general” depression meetings). I worked with therapists, took courses, you name it, if it could help, I tried it.
I found many different modalities, with some overlap and varying degrees of accessibility during crisis.
Some of them were totally useless for me: “Breathe deeply, meditate, relax…”. Yeah, right.
Some methods are pretty darn good when applied consistently: Cognitive Therapy, The Work of Byron Katie, and the teachings of Abraham Low.
But none of those methods had everything I needed. And much was explained in technical terms that are far from user friendly.

It took about a year to get “myself” back. But it was a better self, far more equipped to handle emotional challenges than ever before, and much more present to joy.  I am now able to mother happily: it is never easy, but it is soul-satisfying.

The third time I lived through postpartum depression was 2 years ago. My first son was almost 4 years old by the time my husband and I mustered the courage to have another child. This time around, when the fatigue and hormones took their toll, I recognized the early symptoms and worked with my family and my doctor to minimize the depth and the duration of the pain. And just as important: this time I knew enough to recognize it wasn’t my fault. I had only to deal with the actual hardship, without compounding it with the extra suffering brought on by guilt and shame. That made all the difference in the world.

I have made it my life’s calling to find a way to replicate my success in overcoming postpartum depression. I am at the very early stages of creating classes that combine the best aspects of the many methods I have studied, and presents the information in a digestible, compassionate, guilt-dissolving way.

My goal is to create programs that are emotionally accessible even to women in the depth of the abyss. I envision customizable treasure maps and paths, to be followed in baby steps and a leap of faith (faith in you, not necessarily in god). I am planning units directed at partners, parents and in-laws (enough with the  “you just need to relax”  the “snap out of it” the “pull yourself together”), as well as tools for addressing self-talk, body image, relationship issues, self-expression, and compassionate self-care. Yep, that’s a tall order, and it’s all in the works.
(An update: It’s now May 2011, and the first of the classes I’m working on, called the  UnGuilt Trip is taking it’s first run here in Ithaca, NY. I am hard at work to turn it into an online course I plan to offer in the fall of 2011.)

For the past few years I volunteered as a counselor at a suicide prevention center. There, I found that my ideas and the tools I was using and especially the language in which they were presented, successfully cut through the thick cloud of pain to show callers a glimmer of hope. When the judgment is removed, callers (of all genders and ages) could see a reason to go on living. And seek help.
(This sort of work is heart-wrenching, but oh, so worth the effort.)

Last week, my toddler started going to nursery school.
After years of being “just” a stay-at-home mom, I can now begin doing my life’s work.

I am currently leading recovery groups in my community of Ithaca, New York, and offer a free a monthly support phone chat: The PPD SpeakEasy, accessible from anywhere. I’m an ambitious gal: I feel compelled to get this life-saving information into the hands of mothers everywhere.
My mission: to remove guilt and shame from the parenting experience. I want to show struggling mothers that what seems like a dead-end cave is actually a tunnel, one that can be crossed safely with the support of a loving community throughout the journey.

So if you need this sort of help, please keep in touch. If you know a mother in pain, please spread the word. Let’s help the suffering mothers of the world step out of the dark clouds of shame and guilt, and begin to shine.

Much love,
Yael

 

*Purple Star

Confession time. This page was created in September 2010. It is now April 2011. I’ve been pouring my soul on this website, but all this time I’ve been holding something back:

The night with the belt around my neck, was how I bottomed after the birth of my second son. With the first one, rock-bottom was an overdose of sleep/anxiety medication.
Yes. Like my mother before me, I attempted to end my life. I choose to believe she had something to do with the fact I survived.

Until about a couple of weeks ago, I kinda thought the night with the belt around my neck was bad enough; I couldn’t bring myself to share my suicide attempt here. Too much, too exposed. I was working up my courage to write about this, and in the last few weeks I had gotten the courage I needed from someone I adore despite never having met her in person: Kimberly from http://www.makemommygosomethingsomething.com/

She is so brave and honest in her journey, that she inspired me to “fess up”. I still need to write a lot more about this. It’s in the works, but it’s taking me forever, writing through my tears.

The first blog post I mentioned this in is this one: http://www.ppdtojoy.com/blog/absence-of-love/

32 Responses to This is why
  1. Mignon Compean
    July 10, 2013 | 11:38 pm

    Many thanks for any helpful website. The spot more could I get that type of real information designed in this great approach? I own a goal that i’m right now working with, so i are on the glance out and about for similarly info.

  2. kim tini
    November 7, 2012 | 7:52 pm

    I come back and read this page often. Especially when i feel like i will never get well. It gives me hope to know of someone else who has honestly felt like i have/do. And come out the other side so strong.

  3. Courtney
    June 6, 2012 | 12:03 am

    The pumping for 5 hours a day brought back memories. I did power pumping where I pumped for an hour taking a 5 min break every 5 min. It didn’t work. I felt horrible about breast feeding for a year at least. It’s brave of you to share your story. I didn’t try to kill myself per say but I did other things that were damaging and crazy. Maybe someday I will be able to talk about them.

  4. Jenny
    August 23, 2011 | 4:07 am

    You are a great momma! So glad to write your article.
    Jenny recently posted..Silver Jewelry

  5. Kim
    May 25, 2011 | 4:28 pm

    Striking. Thank you from the bottom of my soul. For over a year I have been scouring the web searching for somebody else who will tell their story with full honesty. Not a sanitzed version that sounds like a PR release. This is what I need. This is what will help me. And so many countless others. As odd as it might sound, this is a gift, you sharing this. Again, thank you.
    Kim recently posted..As A Formerly Depressed Person

    • Yael
      May 26, 2011 | 8:07 pm

      Oh, Sweetie, I’m so glad this is comforting and useful. I’m rooting for you. Hugs.

  6. Tal
    May 19, 2011 | 10:51 am

    Yael,

    I just now had the strength to read through everything you wrote. I know you so differently from what you share here, and it’s not easy to read of the depth of pain you felt.

    I think that what you are doing is amazing. you actually dedicate your life (a part of it anyway) to helping people that really need the help. Not many people can say that. From knowing you for 5 years now, it is clear that you have grown and become a happy and ambitious woman with a mission. I know you will succeed.

    It is an honor to know you and I will always be here for you in anyway I can.

    Your friend
    Tal

    • Yael
      May 20, 2011 | 3:01 pm

      Thank you so much for telling me how you feel. It’ is kind of strange to know someone on the everyday level and discover their painful dark past…
      while it hurt a lot, I am actually grateful for all of it, because it allowed me to become my best self. I love having you as my friend. so glad you are here in Ithaca with me.

  7. […] Yael’s story is touching and heartbreaking and was designed with a greater purpose.  I hope you’ll take the time to get to know her a little more after reading her words. […]

  8. Pamela Gold
    May 2, 2011 | 10:31 am

    Reading about what has happened to you breaks me in two. It makes me feel selfish for even entertaining the idea. Not like it would be a party…you know what I mean. I wish you continued strength.
    Pamela Gold recently posted..Anonymous Submissions – – One Final Release

    • Yael
      May 3, 2011 | 9:32 pm

      Oh, Pamela, I heart you so much.

      There is nothing selfish in being in so much pain you contemplate jumping ship.

      It is sadly common, which is why I am choosing to step outside of my comfort zone to talk about this stuff.

      I know it hurts to read this, I’m sorry for that pain, but it is so important that I talk about having gone through this, so people who get to that scary dark place no longer feel like freaks.

      You rock my world and give me strength by being in it.

  9. Kimberly
    May 2, 2011 | 9:34 am

    Oh honey. Thank you for having the courage to tell your story. You don’t even know how many women will feel your words in their souls…and give them hope.
    Thank you friend. Xoxo
    Kimberly recently posted..It’s Never Too Late

    • Yael
      May 6, 2011 | 9:35 pm

      Sweet Kimberly, it is your courage that inspired me to tap my own to finally share this here. Thank you for all that you do in the online ppd support community, and for me.

  10. charity
    May 1, 2011 | 5:28 pm

    Awesome. I cannot wait to share ur website with my midwife!!

    • Yael
      May 2, 2011 | 9:33 pm

      Charity,
      Thank you so much for sharing my work with your awesome midwife. The world needs more people like her. (and like you!)

  11. Jim
    February 10, 2011 | 6:03 pm

    Great statement in you video…”No one can feel miserable when their feet are being rubbed” !!

    As a Licensed Massage Therapist …..I see this on a daily basis – and know that the benefit has a true biological basis that is truly amazing !!

    Thanks for your site !

  12. orna
    September 27, 2010 | 6:20 pm

    you expressed yourself so candidly and so deeply.
    no one is better equipped than you to help others in this situation.
    may you reach all those who are in need.
    best of luck. love

    • Yael
      August 16, 2011 | 10:04 pm

      Oh, Orna, this is so sweet coming from you. You are the best mother in law ever. We all miss you so much.

  13. רחלי
    September 27, 2010 | 4:25 am

    מרגש!!
    המון הצלחה
    רחלי

  14. Jacki
    September 27, 2010 | 12:14 am

    Yael,
    It is clear that behind your effervescent personality is a lot of substance. I commend you for your calling and will let my colleagues know about your PPD class. If you have a flier, I’ll post it as well.
    Jacki

    • Yael
      September 29, 2010 | 10:01 pm

      Hey Jacki, thank you for the willingness to help. And yep, effervescence and substance, I aim to please… ;-)

  15. Dahlia
    September 26, 2010 | 4:45 pm

    מזל טוב יקירה
    איזה שילוב מרגש של טוב הלב ויכולת ההבעה האינסופיים שלך.
    בהצלחה

    • Tilly
      April 25, 2016 | 10:59 am

      Nonhitg I could say would give you undue credit for this story.

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  16. naomi baum
    September 26, 2010 | 10:30 am

    much good luck in your new venture- this is very important work- and much needed. you are brave and courageous. if i can help you- do let me know.
    naomi baum

    • Yael
      September 26, 2010 | 9:58 pm

      Naomi, Thank you. I would love to collaborate somehow. Yes, let’s.

  17. Zi ki
    September 24, 2010 | 7:50 pm

    יום הןלדת שמח עם כיף פנימי
    בריאות למשך הרבה מאוד שנות עשיה אושר ונחת
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  18. rachel t
    September 24, 2010 | 6:40 pm

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  19. MG
    September 24, 2010 | 1:48 pm

    Wow, Yael. Wow. I’m so glad you are doing this. What a fantastic community resource and space (for both the virtual and tangible communities in which we find ourselves). I feel so blessed to be part of this community. Thank you for sharing, and for your dedication.

    • Yael
      September 27, 2010 | 9:57 pm

      My friend, thank you so much. I love having you in my community. Lucky we.

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